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A Bittersweet Season

Caring for Our Aging Parents--and Ourselves
Gross, Jane (Book - 2011)
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A Bittersweet Season
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Just a few of the vitally important lessons in caring for your aging parent--and yourself--from Jane Gross in A Bittersweet Season As painful as the role reversal between parent and child may be for you, assume it is worse for your mother or father, so take care not to demean or humiliate them. Avoid hospitals and emergency rooms, as well as multiple relocations from home to assisted living facility to nursing home, since all can cause dramatic declines in physical and cognitive well-being among the aged. Do not accept the canard that no decent child sends a parent to a nursing home. Good nursing home care, which supports the entire family, can be vastly superior to the pretty trappings but thin staffing of assisted living or the solitude of being at home, even with round-the-clock help. Important Facts Every state has its own laws, eligibility standards, and licensing requirements for financial, legal, residential, and other matters that affect the elderly, including qualification for Medicare. Assume anything you understand in the state where your parents once lived no longer applies if they move. Many doctors will not accept new Medicare patients, nor are they legally required to do so, especially significant if a parent is moving a long distance to be near family in old age. An adult child with power of attorney can use a parent's money for legitimate expenses and thus hasten the spend-down to Medicaid eligibility. In other words, you are doing your parent no favor--assuming he or she is likely to exhaust personal financial resources--by paying rent, stocking the refrigerator, buying clothes, or taking him or her to the hairdresser or barber.
Authors: Gross, Jane
Title: A bittersweet season
caring for our aging parents--and ourselves
Publisher: New York : Alfred A. Knopf, 2011
Characteristics: 350 p. ;,25 cm
Statement of Responsibility: Jane Gross
Notes: Includes index
Contents: The early heroic rush
The myth of assisted living
The vestiges of family medicine
A job for professionals
The best doctors money can buy
September eleventh
September twelfth
The biology, sociology, and psychology of aging
A nursing home thanksgiving
The Make-A-Wish Foundation
Follow the money
Therapeutic fibs
Cruel sorting
As complicated as a Rubik's cube
The time for talking
Dying days
ISBN: 030727182X
Branch Call Number: 306.8740973 G8782b 2011
Subject Headings: Gross, Jane Family Adult children of aging parents Family relationships United States Aging parents Care United States
Topical Term: Adult children of aging parents
Aging parents
LCCN: 2011007079
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One of the greatest sources of comfort to caregivers is the knowledge that they aren't alone. Jane Gross does a masterful job in sharing her story and the lessons she learned in grappling with her own caregiving challenges. Her book is written "...from the far shore of caregiving, an all... Read More »

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Jun 05, 2012
  • cullmann rated this: 3.5 stars out of 5.

Tough read as my mother and mother-in-law are both aging and declining but good information, regardless.


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