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Multcolib My Librarian Diana: Sex education for the 21st Century

I tend to be as open with my kids as I feel they’re ready for, and I want books that are sex-positive, inclusive and LGBT-friendly. Different families have different values and expectations. I would encourage parents to look at these books to make sure they’re right for your family before handing them to a child. I put books for younger children near the top of the list and books for older children towards the bottom.

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  • Simple and to the point, without more information than a toddler or preschooler may want to know. The kids in the book are diverse, but the way that babies are made, in this one, are not.
    Book, 2015[Victoria, British Columbia] : Orca Book Publishers, [2015] — j Parenting 612.6 R6454w 2015
  • What Makes a Baby

    a Book for Every Kind of Family and Every Kind of Kid

    Silverberg, Cory,
    Where do babies come from? This is a very good book to use with little kids (perhaps 3-7) who want to know the answer to this question. Unlike many other books which focus on the mommy-and-daddy model, this is a book that will also be perfect to use…
    Book, 2012New York : Seven Stories Press, [2012] — j Parenting 612.6 S5874w 2013
  • The little kid in this book asks a serious question and gets exactly the right amount of answer- for a 4- to 7-year old. The affection between this grandma and child is lovely. as are the quirky collage illustrations.
    Book, 2017New York City : Feminist Press at The City University of New York, [2017] — j Parenting 372.372049 H635t 2017
  • It's Not the Stork!

    a Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families, and Friends

    Harris, Robie H.,
    This is excellent. It contains everything a kid 4-7 needs to know presented in a matter-of-fact, inclusive way with cheerful drawings.
    Book, 2006Cambridge, Mass. : Candlewick Press, 2006. — j Parenting 649.65 H315i 2006
  • Consent (for Kids!)

    Boundaries, Respect, and Being in Charge of You

    Brian, Rachel, 1971-
    Body autonomy for kids from about ages 5 to 10. It's simple, straightforward, and entertaining. We all should have had this book when we were children.
    Graphic Novel, 2020New York, NY : Little, Brown and Company, [2020] — jgn 158.2 BRIAN 2020
  • Changing You

    a Guide to Body Changes and Sexuality

    Saltz, Gail
    This is a picture book that I think would work for an 8- or 9-year-old. The illustrations are colorful and appealing and offer subjects of different ethnicities. The information is a little too basic for kids who are actually experiencing puberty…
    Book, 2007New York, N.Y. : Dutton Children's Books, ©2007. — j 612.6 S179c 2007
  • It's So Amazing!

    a Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families

    Harris, Robie H.,
    This book would work, I think, for an 8- to 10-year-old. It offers a funny, sweet, honest take on love and sex, puberty, genetics, pregnancy, and related topics, from good and bad touching to HIV.
    Book, 2014Somerville, Mass. : Candlewick Press, 2014. — j 612.6 H315i 2014
  • Sex Is a Funny Word

    a Book About Bodies, Feelings, and YOU

    Silverberg, Cory,
    I think this colorful, appealing book would be appropriate for an 8- to 10-year-old. It addresses gender especially well, and doesn't really go into any sex acts except masturbation. Text is interspersed with comics.
    Graphic Novel, 2015New York : Seven Stories Press, [2015] — j 613.9071 S587s 2015
  • Girl to Girl

    Honest Talk About Growing Up and Your Changing Body

    Burningham, Sarah O'Leary
    I like this gentle book for an 8- to 12-year old girl. It covers all the basics of puberty plus a lot more-- how to care for braces, how to shave, healthy eating, etc. And every once in a while, there's a little section of real stories from real…
    Book, 2013San Francisco : Chronicle Books, [2013] — j 613.04242 B9668g 2014
  • Growing Up Great!

    the Ultimate Puberty Book for Boys

    Todnem, Scott,
    I think this is the best of the books especially for boys about puberty (probably boys in middle school). It covers all the basics and lets boys know that they're not alone-- everyone goes through this craziness while they're growing up. Bonus: it…
    Book, 2019Emeryville, California : Rockridge Press, [2019] — j 612.661 T639g 2019
  • The Every Body Book

    the LGBTQ+ Inclusive Guide for Kids About Sex, Gender, Bodies, and Families

    Simon, Rachel E.,
    If you're looking for a book for or about non-binary or trans kids, or hey, for any 8- to 12-year old, this is very good. It's matter-of-fact and presents diversity in race, sexual orientation and body type.
    Book, 2020London ; Philadelphia, PA : Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2020. — j 306.7 S5962e 2020
  • Short, funny personal chapters and absolutely wonderful design make this my favorite book for girls 8 to 12. It discusses periods, hormones, gender, body positivity- all the things- without talking down to its readers.
    Book, 2018New York : Harper, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2018. — j 646.7046 I14g 2018
  • Just like in Are You There God, It's Me, Margaret, young girls really are focused on when they'll get their periods and what they'll be like. This book will tell them all about it and how to cope.
    Book, 2021Somerville, Massachusetts : Walker Books, 2021. — j 612.662 S9384w 2021
  • 100 Questions You'd Never Ask Your Parents

    Straight Answers to Teens' Questions About Sex, Sexuality, and Health

    Henderson, Elisabeth,
    This is one to leave around the house somewhere. I think it's good for middle-schoolers and up, and answers questions like "Am I still a virgin if I use a tampon?" and "What should I say to my friend who thinks she's gay?"
    Book, 2013New York : Roaring Brook Press, [2013] — y 306.70835 H4964o 2013
  • Will Puberty Last My Whole Life?

    Real Answers to Real Questions From Preteens About Body Changes, Sex, and Other Growing-up Stuff

    Metzger, Julie Giesy,
    This is a flip book, so it addresses boys on one side and girls on the other. It answers real-life adolescents' questions that the authors- a doctor and a nurse who have been teaching classes on puberty for decades-- have been asked. It's an…
    Book, 2012Seattle, Wash. : Sasquatch Books, ©2012. — j 613.0433 M5966w 2012
  • You Know, Sex

    Bodies, Gender, Puberty, and Other Things!

    Silverberg, Cory,
    Bright, explicit, and honest, this one is in a comic format and is fun to read. For kids 11-15.
    Graphic Novel, 2022New York, NY: Seven Stories Press/Triangle Square Books for Young Readers, 2022. — ygn 372.37204 SILVERBER 2022
  • Let's Talk About It

    the Teen's Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Being a Human

    Moen, Erika, 1983-
    One review said this "puts the graphic in graphic novel", and I am such a fan of it. It's completely frank, has the best take on gender, it's inclusive in terms of body shapes and different abilities, it's utterly sex-positive, and it's very…
    Graphic Novel, 2021New York [New York] : RH Graphic, [2021] — ygn 306.7 MOEN 2020
  • It's Perfectly Normal

    a Book About Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health

    Harris, Robie H.,
    This is my favorite. It's very comprehensive, inclusive, approachable and well-written, and the illustrations are great. I like its matter-of-fact approach and the funny bird-and-bee cartoons that weave through the whole book. I'd say it was…
    Book, 2009Somerville, Mass. : Candlewick Press, 2009. — y 613.951 H315i 2009
  • Girl

    Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You

    Rayne, Karen,
    This wonderful book for teen girls is sex-positive and inclusive. It gives its reader all the answers to their questions and trusts them to make good decisions once they know the facts. The illustrations are charming, and there are little diary…
    Book, 2017Washington, DC : Magination Press, [2017] — y 155.533 R275g 2017
  • S.E.X.

    the All-you-need-to-know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties

    Corinna, Heather,
    This one gets into the nitty-gritty, honestly and respectfully diving deep into the kinds of real questions young people have about their own sexuality. It's fun to read, diverse and sex-positive.
    Book, 2016Boston, MA : Da Capo Lifelong Books, 2016. — y 613.9071 C798s 2016